“Wait, Is This a night out together?”: A New Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

This is
“Wait, Is This A Date”
the podcast about queer relationship you never knew you always needed, hosted by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was given birth to of Drew and I also’s shared love of voice memos and deep conversations about internet dating. We have been delivering both vocals memos just for over per year today, going deep regarding the things received really likes about matchmaking (folks! fun! flirting!) and the circumstances I hate about internet dating (individuals! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of fun, innovative, and informative talks and frankly, it felt impolite to deprive the higher community of these!

Imagine you as your friendly community co-hosts, leading you through extremely specific queer matchmaking conundrums because seriously, directly dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG tales? How do you take long, slow flirting one step further? Precisely what does it imply to believe everyone is into you? We will talk to a number of Autostraddle’s finest article writers, play some very particular games, document on our pop music tradition crushes of the moment and undoubtedly, try to respond to the endless question in our times:

Wait…is this a night out together???

Tune in to the intro below and whet urge for food, following smash that “subscribe” key wherever okay podcasts tend to be distributed, thus guaranteeing you a delightful August 11th, when the very first recognized occurrence falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.


Christina:

And I’m Christina. And this refers to

Wait, Is This a romantic date?

An Autostraddle podcast definitely centered on practical question, “hold off, is it a date?”


Drew:

I’m thus thrilled to find out.


Theme track performs


Christina:

Yeah. In my opinion we have been on a trip to discover exactly what are times and what exactly are maybe not times, as friends, and also as a people, I think.


Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.


Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians just what all of our whole indealment is actually, like whatever you’re up to contained in this moment?


Drew:

Like exactly who we are?


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

Yeah. I’m able to go 1st. My name is Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the web site. I actually do most film and television criticism, and intercourse and matchmaking authorship, and personal essays, and items that combine all of those situations. I’m trans and I am a lesbian, and I feel I should add a 3rd thing because everything is in threes. Just what otherwise? Just what else?


Christina:

Situations would go on threes. You’ve got great locks.


Drew:

Oh, thanks.


Christina:

You have amazing hair, i believe that’s really important.


Drew:

Those are my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great hair.


Christina:

Those tend to be the identities.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

I have always said that you happen to be a female of hair knowledge. I have always said that about you.


Drew:

Yeah. It is vital.


Christina:

Yeah. I’m Christina Tucker. Im in addition a writer at Autostraddle, when you can accept it as true, exactly who writes about… oh, let’s merely state whatever pops into the mind. That’s really the vibe. Additionally a lesbian. I’m Dark. I am not sure who otherwise i will be.


Drew:

You also have fantastic locks.


Christina:

Ok last one, no, after all, In my opinion that is possibly a podcast of hair experience. Possibly that ought to be our very own tagline, “a podcast of locks experience.” I assume the individuals are probably questioning how exactly we reached this podcast specifically.


Drew:

Yes. And like every neat thing in daily life — and by that after all, extremely, very few — it started as a highdea, as something I sent you in a sound memo, high. And returning beyond that, we began giving vocals memos together in the very beginning of the pandemic.


Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I’m merely likely to reveal such as the emotions that i’ve, and then you can go after that and answer me, maybe not reply to me personally, whatever. I am similar to, that is me getting immediate and clear. Okay. I will be some body who… I love dealing with online dating. It is certainly my primary subject areas of dialogue. We have today said my part.


Christina, in a voice memo:

Many thanks for stating the portion. In addition, six mins and 54 seconds. Truthfully, instead impressive to get that out in that length of time. We never truly consider matchmaking. In my opinion, possibly, an opposite feeling of you and your love to remember internet dating and speak about dating and, like, be dating. I do believe those tend to be my personal ideas. Well, I’m delivering a Drew-level vocals memo, a Drew-length voice memo today. I’ll send this.


Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I am aware you don’t consider internet dating, most certainly not up to me, maybe less than anybody else I know?


Christina, in a voice memo:

I think about dating not as much as almost anyone I additionally understand. I am not sure. We really don’t know basically’ve satisfied anyone would youn’t think of internet dating in so far as I perform or as much as I do not, i suppose.


Drew:

We did not actually know one another. We were co-workers at Autostraddle, but for those of you who don’t understand, Autostraddle is an online office space. Its more of a Slack circumstance than a, we appear to like lesbian headquarters combined with briefcases. That is not really the ambiance. We didn’t really know one another. Then, the start of pandemic, there was some DM sliding many friendship building many sound memoing. And in addition we would constantly joke it absolutely was like we had a podcast because we would send these extended voice memos. And then whenever I was actually stoned, I found myself love, “We actually should.” And right here we have been.


Christina:

Yeah. I understand that which you suggest by large some ideas not at all times being top tips, but i really do have an extremely clear remembrance of hearing you claim that being like, “Yeah, naturally we have to have a podcast. The audience is performing for every single additional. You will want to ask other folks engrossed?”


Drew:

craigslist m4m sexting-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Usually my personal high ideas are such things as, “Oh my Jesus, there must be a TV show called

Get A Hold Of The Star Twin,

where you just take a high profile then they satisfy someone who — like a haphazard individual that provides their identical birth data. That also, is among my personal large ideas that i do believe would be fantastic. It Really Is like…


Christina:

Yeah, to begin with, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.


Drew:

Which is a free one. I do not proper care.


Christina:

No, it isn’t really. Drew, I’m getting you cash, my goal is to become your money manager for this. Absolutely not.


Drew:

I just need to see these items in the world. Essentially, this is certainly a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And something of the reasons why it is that topic, rather than any number of other things Christina and I mention, is mainly because i really like matchmaking and Christina does not love internet dating which is a fun small.


Christina:

A reduced amount of an admirer.


Drew:

And dispute is really… this is where drama happens. In my opinion Socrates mentioned that.


Christina:

Definitely.


Drew:

So in retrospect which is our very own subject. We will protect all sorts of things.


Christina:

Yeah. We’re going to speak about most of the most readily useful queer internet dating conundrums, matchmaking via Instagram.


Drew, in audio clip from potential episode:

Correct myself easily’m completely wrong, but i do believe Instagram is the better queer internet dating application.


Shelli, in sound clip from future episode:

One thousand per cent. Simple fact is that best.


Christina, in sound video from future episode:

I heard this from other queers.


Shelli, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Absolutely. It gives you practically all you need, unless of course someone’s exclusive. But even though you’re private, child, we’ll know about you, some kind of means.


Drew, in audio clip from future event:

We are going to speak about the very best gender we have now ever endured.


Dani, in audio video from potential event:

After which I finally asked like, “No, did you go beyond here to possess gender? Are we browsing have sexual intercourse?” And additionally they were like, “Yeah, that’s what I wanted.” Plus it had been like, the cat while the puppy had been during the place there had been cat-and-dog hair every-where. And that I was actually like, definitely having an allergic effect although we had been having sex. The orgasm was, like, cook’s hug. It actually was the right knowledge.


Drew, in sound clip from future event:

Wow.


Christina, in sound clip from future event:

We question whether it’s one thing in regards to the hives that actually included. Like a little ‘jenesequa’ to that orgasm experience. It had been like, “Ooh, I’m a little itchy additionally.” I ponder just how much that facets. We’re referring to how to separation with people.


Ro, in sound clip from potential episode:

It is like a really direct culture thing, as well.


Christina, in audio video from potential episode:

Yeah.


Ro, in audio clip from future event:

At the least in my opinion, i’m like… My personal straight friends are those who’re almost certainly going to state, “Well, shag that individual. That individual sucks,” if I finish a relationship with someone. Whereas, queer folks in my life are those who will be more prone to maintain friendships with exes or at least see the exes in a holistic way.


Christina, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Anything you could contemplate in an internet dating podcast, and I’m not likely to rest to you personally individuals, additionally more. A lot more than you could potentially ever think about.


Drew, in sound clip from future episode:

When you’re sexting via text, is-it like what you need them… Are you undertaking role-plays of a situation, like “you’re coming in contact with me personally today” or “I wish you’re holding,” what tense tend to be we in?


Kayla, in audio clip from future episode:

Yeah, I was going to ask alike question, actually, because that’s something that’s always interesting in my experience, specially just because we are all authors, also.


Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

I found myself browsing state, several people like, “just what tight are we operating?”


Kayla, in sound clip from future episode:

Viewpoint.


Christina, in audio clip from future episode:

It’s a detailed next, what is actually happening right here?


Kayla, in sound video from potential episode:

Like, strictly 2nd?


Drew:

Discover finished . about queer folks. Without a doubt.


Christina:

Okay. Pull up a chair. This is the TED Talk. Why don’t we stop.


Drew:

We have so many encounters as they are so much more fascinating. Only as I consider the method in which straight men and women mention internet dating, it’s therefore monotonous. And I also think-so frequently, queer dating conversations tend to be extensions on the popular matchmaking discourse, but incorporating things like “coming out” and “first time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It’s like — absolutely much more nuance in so much more… It is so exciting. Exactly what a world it is, queer gender and queer matchmaking.


Christina:

We have taken like the very traditional style of boring design of heterosexual dating and really brought it into a world, filled up with very long conversations and handling all of our feelings. It is incredible work.


Drew:

Yeah. I am actually excited and I wish all to you tend to be excited, because our very own basic event is released per week from now then, there’ll end up being brand-new attacks every Wednesday.


Christina:

It has been one week before you’ll notice the podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not just get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you will definately get

Hold Off, Is It A Date?

on Wednesdays.


Drew:

And that I co-host both, when you dislike myself, I guess you’re not enjoying Autostraddle podcasts. And in case you will do like me, you are welcome.


Christina:

In addition, unless you like Drew, develop, is really what i must say.


Drew:

I am not for everybody, I am okay with this. In my opinion it should be best that you never be for all.


Christina:

Certain. In my opinion that is completely fair. And maybe a subject we could discuss on a single of our own future symptoms. What happens when you’re perhaps not for all of us? We liked that I moved like, “Ooh, why don’t we get this to all inclusive.” What happens whenever you, we, as people. You said, let’s perform a complete occurrence pertaining to, “Can you imagine I am not for everyone?”


Drew:

Well, its Leo season and that I’m a Leo climbing and that I felt like making it about myself personally. 00:09:54].


Christina:

As am I. Thank you so much definitely.


Drew:

We have been twin Leo risings on this podcast, that is certainly section of exactly why it will likely be so excellent. It is possible to pay attention to united states wherever you listen to your podcast. It will be a fairly regular podcast situation. Absolutely nothing extravagant, no riddles would have to be fixed to get the occurrence, it will likely be right there for your needs.


Christina:

Simply not the supervisor people. There are many choices, do what you will really.


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, there is all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you can e-mail united states at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And find myself on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal title in the present tight.


Christina:

We have considered your social media marketing accounts often times and that I haven’t, until this moment, knew that it is “draw.” Wow.


Drew:

Yeah. Well that is the thing, Drew was actually taken and that I don’t know how… Oh, I happened to be internet dating someone that truly… in fact this person which I dated, I didn’t get a large number off that relationship, except we stated this concept and she thought it actually was very amusing, like too amusing, truthfully, like the main problem, In my opinion possibly. And I was motivated to get it done, then it’s simply caught.


Christina:

Wow.


Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes people think i am a visual musician and you know what, I love to end up being considered in that way, but I can’t, I do not obviously have drawing abilities.


Christina:

I will say you’ll find nothing more about brand for Drew than becoming like, “Oh, that’s your own Twitter handle.” While being love, “really, its a funny tale about dating.”


Drew:

Indeed, just.


Christina:

Best.


Drew:

What are individual manages, consequently they are they connected to your romantic life?


Christina:

Merely, no. You’ll find myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the internet site. And in case you want to find myself on Instagram, you could do so, at @christina_gracet. And it’s actually fearless of me to know my Instagram handle.


Drew:

Wonderful work.


Christina:

Thanks a lot much.


Drew:

It is usually a pleasure to talk to both you and i am therefore thrilled to plunge into all these exciting topics. And our very own listeners to make it to understand us slightly better and acquire to… i do believe we are able to all, i believe we’re all going to find out about quest.


Christina:

I am hoping so. I subscribed to discovering.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Like a college course of podcasts. That managed to make it appear to be an outright bummer. So sorry.


Drew:

I don’t know. I’d some fantastic school classes.


Christina:

Obviously, Used To Do as well, but Really Don’t want to make anybody—


Drew:

Can you imagine just how remarkable it could be if you arrived towards college class and either of us was your own teacher, or we coached a course with each other, that’d be the hottest thing ever before. People will be like…


Christina:

Hottest admission in the city. Enrollment is off of the data.


Drew:

Oh, we must have an episode which is focused on hot teachers. That’s not appropriate.


Christina:

That is not not appropriate. We’ll say that.


Drew:

Sure, sure. I’m like there might be — you must make it some broader, but who knows? Who knows just what will be in the future, that is certainly actually exciting. And you also understand who’ll understand? You, listener, when you stay tuned every Wednesday.


Christina:

You tune in while crucially hit that old subscribe key and you will go out with us every Wednesday and inquire yourself, “Understanding a date?”


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That brings me personally to… I am not sure. I was just thinking… was actually this a romantic date?


Christina:

Drew, no. This will be a podcast trailer.


Drew:

Oh, cool off. Okay. Great. Okay. I do believe I’m acquiring the hang of it while know what’s fantastic, usually because I asked, today i am aware, and today directly in interaction is really just what it’s exactly about.


Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.


Drew:

Plus one that many folks in our very own area could learn. Therefore’re going to, ideally, this is actually a service. This can be a reduced amount of a podcast plus of a political work.


Christina:

Wow. I found myselfn’t aware of that, but I’m happy to know that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. A couple of the best circumstances. A couple of my personal favorite items to begin with P, podcasts and political acts.


Theme tune plays.


Christina, in a voice memo:

In my opinion my personal instinct is if i love you and that I want them in my own existence, I’m sure the very best way in my situation to make sure they’re in my own life is to ensure they are a pal.


Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m simply therefore happy we’ve come to be this type of buddies. If in case away from quarantine, that is what occurred, we made this amazing new friend, who I love dearly and I also’m simply thrilled to talk to you usually, like just what something special.


Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I had an idea also it moved out. It actually was honestly most likely really brilliant.



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